Long-distance emotional stress affects military spouses or newly married spouses quite often. It also affects couples who have a spouse that has received a dream job offer in a distant city. If you and your spouse work with employers that are hundreds and thousands of miles apart, then you have a pretty arduous decision ahead of you: determining which one of you has to quit.
This can be very difficult because both spouses may love their jobs; however, spouses need to love each other more than their jobs. Firstly, seek to see if you can just transfer within your current company. Secondly, if this is not possible or takes too much lead-time, then you will have to quit. This does not have to be an immediate resignation, but you definitely need to get the ball rolling in that direction.
It’s been a while, but my wife and I have been in those shoes. When we got married 5 years ago, I ended up being the spouse that moved. That certainly wasn’t the only option we had, but it ended up being the best option for us long-term.
Have you and your spouse ever been in this situation?
Originally posted on my LinkedIn back in August 2015.